Understanding is something that we all can become progressive in relation to, and it does take a big effort to become a better understanding individual.  It should be a beneficial learning experience whether it be through a journey of understanding yourself or through your encounters of understanding others.  I believe that one who is understanding indicates that you are willing to compromise, to relate with great effort, to listen for comprehension, and to grant compassion for support.

To grant understanding we gain a better sense of what living means.  When we understand better we comprehend better, as an old saying goes: “Simple is what simple does”.  According to Merriam Webster online dictionary understanding means several different things and I have chosen some to discuss:

a: The power to make experience intelligible by applying concepts and categories.

(in other words I interpret this as being able to relate to understanding based on your own similar experiences.)

b: Friendly or harmonious relationship.

(In other words you share compassion for one another)

c: An agreement of opinion or feeling : adjustment of differences.

(In other words, you are making a compromise)

Making a compromise at your own will is something unavoidable; in order to become better at this means to make bigger and better compromises in your life.  Compromising should never be viewed as a defeat, cause in actuality you win and lose.  For example: if you have a friend who likes to drink alcohol and you not so much.  Well I suggest going out with them and having a light drink even if you don’t want to.  The outcome is that you have made them happy by supporting what they enjoy to do from time to time.  I am sure there are things that they do to support you that they don’t fancy.  You should try asking yourself 2 questions to ensure a better understanding outcome:

1.  Is the compromise worth the outcome?

(In other words, is your friend worth the sacrifice?)

2.  Can you truly deal with the loss of what you give to make the compromise?

(In other words, can you commit to the sacrifice?)

Relating with great effort does not mean that you must understand, because you have shared the same experiences whom it be that you are trying to relate to.  But instead it means that you are willing to put yourself in their shoes and find comparisons that relate to what they are living in order to understand.  For example I have friends who have sex addictions, I mean who doesn’t love sex?(lol) But in their cases it is truly something that they must have everyday and all day.  I have never had the same issue, I have always lusted for intimacy, but not necessarily needed to have sex all day.  I have felt like it should be something that is longed for and not granted all day.  This is a prime example of relating to understand, cause in fact we all have addictions that we struggle with, so I find it hard to not be able relate to things with effort.

Utilizing comprehension is the most valuable aspect of learning.  If you listen to learn from others mistakes, you will benefit victoriously.  I have learned so much through associates, friends, family, and my own falters.  I am in extreme belief that listening for comprehension allows one the opportunity to learn in advance.  We are understanding by nature, but bias by choice.  Things that we do will not always be accepted by others, but it is comprehending by listening to one’s thought that should be taken into account.  Understand to know that they are different and have different habits, by listening without bias you can come to understand a great deal about this person.

It is never wrong to show compassion for yourself and others.  You never know when you will need a little bit from others when you end up doing something that you consider to be a mistake.  I have found great compassion in forgiving and forgetting, it seems like the easiest way to let got and embrace new endeavours within relationships with people whom you find worthy.  I have found a great excerpt from the free dictionary website by Farlex that I have chosen to conclude today’s entry with, posted below:

Compassion is a profound and positive human emotion prompted by the pain of others. More vigorous than empathy, the feeling commonly gives rise to an active desire to alleviate another’s suffering. It is often, though not inevitably, the key component in what manifests in the social context as altruism. In ethical terms, the various expressions down the ages of the so-called Golden Rule embody by implication the principle of compassion: Do to others as you would have done to you. Ranked a great virtue in numerous philosophies, compassion is considered in all the major religious traditions as among the greatest of virtues. (http://encyclopedia.thefreedictionary.com/compassion)

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