What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

People are so quick to say things and have no substance behind what they say, what is the reason behind this?  Ask yourself what makes you the adult that you say you are? Ask yourself if you are not as valuable as your words then what makes you valuable?  These are questions that one should ask themselves to gain a better understanding of what makes them who they are at the moment versus who they can be in the future.

If one truly lives to know who they are, then one makes sacrifices to understand who they are with no restraints!  What I mean by this is that if you want something to succeed, then you should be willing to put forth effort that will support what you say.  If you can’t keep your word in simple situations, then most likely you will not be able to proceed in being considered meaningful in your actions.

It takes an understanding person to realize and comprehend this, it is not a complicated action, but rather a compromising effort that in turn will prove you are worthy of being reliable.  People create most of their own problems, they choose to live in denial when reacting to situations the wrong way and making the effort to  compromise meaningless.

For example, if you are dealing with an insecure lover and you are partially to blame for some of their insecurities amongst the relationship.  Then you would need to understand that your role should be to prove to this person that you would never put them into this situation again.  I bet you all are like, well how is this done?

I suggest a great start would be to understand that this may not have been the 1st situation that this person has ever experienced.  Secondly, be more affectionate to this person than ever before(if you have a hard time with this you can always google, how to be more affectionate in a troubled relationship?).  Thirdly, take control of the situation, the ball is truly in your court, and that does not mean to be a jerk/bitch about your power in the relationship at this point.

But instead this is your chance to allow this person to gain your trust back, so you need to be as open as possible and their shouldn’t be a worry of privacy.  Lastly, try balancing out your time spent with friends and family, this period may be crucial to the other person and it is necessary that you listen to this person in terms of what they need from you.  I feel that it may be a difficult thing when in thought, but if you are a man/woman of your words you will make this something manageable.

Never wish life were easier, wish that you were better. (Jim Rohn)

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